Did you ever befriend the person who bullied you?

[Brem]

We've all been through bullying of some sort in our lives, whether it be in school, or outside of it, bullying is a real problem. But I think bullying is a part of life that we need to come to terms with. There are awful people out there and they may make your lives hell. But has there ever been a time where you befriended the person who bullied you? There's a lot of reasons people bully others, and sometimes it's as simple as that person having a rough life. Maybe the bully is dealing with bullying of their own, maybe at school or at home.

Of course, I'm not saying you have to allow the bullying. Not at all. Just that there are usually reasons why someone bullies another person. Anyway, if you have befriended someone who was previously your bully, how did it go over? How was it becoming a friend with the person who previously tormented you? What was their reason for the bullying? Have you ever asked them why they did it?

I was kind of a friend with my bully, as he eventually stopped being a jerk, but I still wasn't friendly with him because I never fully trusted him. Though I did forgive him for his bullying, because I can't hate on someone for the rest of my life either.

 

[uptrendfinancialsignal]

Funny enough, yes. My secondary school bully actually added me on Facebook years later acting all nice, lol. I didn’t even get angry. Life changes people. Some of them have mature and realized how childish they were back then. We even chat once in a while now. No hard feelings. I just thank God I’m not the type to hold grudges. It’s really heavy on the mind.

 

[Fidelia]

There are certain things that people do and it registers in the minds of people forever. The people that bullied me, I was never friends with them. I never found a point to warm up to them because my mind always defined them as capable of harming me, even when we have grown to adults.

 

[Master-one]

I was bullied severely in my school. No one cared about that. At that time, I had no option but to endure everything. I never befriended my bullies and hatred for them still remains in my heart.

 

[esprit_girl]

I was a victim of bullying in high school. They'd make fun of me by calling me "names" because I was kind of overweight. I almost dropped out of school because of it. I decided not to befriend the people who bullied me. There is no point in doing that.

 

[Ja sa bong]

It's only someone who's mad and mentally deranged that's going to date someone who knowingly bullied them. Doing something like this is like signing your death warrant.

 

[Hazel]

No, I didn’t. With time, I realized I didn’t need that kind of closure. I focused more on moving forward and setting boundaries. Understanding why people bully helped, but friendship wasn’t necessary for healing or growth.

 

[Henrywrites]

Yes, I did, but that was when I have forgiven them. I had to just let go without feeling any form of anger at all. We became friends after the apology and it has been going smoothly since then.