Do You Think Anger Hides Hurt Feelings?

[Arnold]

Anger is sometimes easier to express than sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, or fear. Someone may become argumentative when what they actually feel is rejected or ignored. Why can anger hide more vulnerable emotions, and how can recognizing the underlying feeling change the way relationship conflicts are handled?

 

[Ciri]

I think anger can sometimes cover up hurt feelings because being angry may feel easier than admitting you’re hurt, rejected, or disappointed. It doesn’t happen every time, of course, but I’ve noticed that people can become defensive when something has affected them more deeply than they want to show.

 

[Heatman]

Well, that's not how anger works for me. I get that all human beings are different and when it comes to how anger works on me, I can never be able to hide my hurt when I'm angry. With hearing me talk when angry, you're going to know that I was really hurt.

 

[Henrywrites]

Anger is sometimes easier to express than sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, or fear. Someone may become argumentative when what they actually feel is rejected or ignored. Why can anger hide more vulnerable emotions, and how can recognizing the underlying feeling change the way relationship conflicts are handled?

I express myself when I am angry. I won't hide it from anyone because it makes no meaning that I am going to hide how angry that I am to anyone. I will show that something is wrong and needed to be fixed.

 

[JonSnow]

I believe anger often has another emotion behind it, especially hurt or disappointment. Getting angry can feel easier than admitting that someone’s words or actions actually affected you. I’ve noticed that when the anger settles, the real issue is sometimes feeling ignored, disrespected, rejected, or simply hurt.

 

[Hazel]

I think anger often comes from being hurt. When someone feels ignored, rejected, or betrayed, getting angry can feel easier than admitting those feelings. I’ve noticed that once the anger settles down, the real issue is sometimes disappointment or sadness that was sitting underneath it.

 

[Shree]

Anger can sometimes hide hurt feelings. It can feel easier to become angry than admit that something has genuinely hurt or disappointed you. I’ve noticed that when someone reacts very strongly, there’s sometimes another emotion underneath the anger. Fear, sadness, rejection, or embarrassment can all come out as anger.